Hello from Frumpland!

I am a self proclaimed frumpster, wife, and mother of two under the age of two. I've decided that I'm tired of feeling bad about the way I look when I leave the house, so I'm going to do something about it!

So how did I get to this low place of pony tails and baggy t-shirts? Well, let's see. I used to be skinny and could wear anything, so I never really thought about what I wore. I just bought stuff I liked and for the most part it fit (except jeans, I have long legs). Then I got married and gained a few pounds, then was mad at myself for gaining weight but didn't do anything about it. Then I got pregnant and then pregnant again. After the second baby I had had enough and when she was 6 weeks old I got my butt to the gym, kicking some....bags and punching them too (it's so much fun if you've never boxed or kick boxed). Yes, I've lost a few pounds (a measly 6 to be exact) but I know it's going to take a long time (and I don't expect to go back to my smallest) and I also know I'm one of the "lucky" ones who holds on to a little weight while nursing.

37 weeks with Bo

37 weeks with Ava

After going to the gym for awhile I started to feel good and feel better about myself. I hadn't bought new clothes in forever because I was basically pregnant for two years. I wanted to buy new clothes, but it didn't make sense to, because I told myself I would lose so much weight that whatever I had bought wouldn't fit anymore and besides nothing looks good. Then I came across a blog that totally changed the way I thought about buying/wearing clothes. Putting Me Together is one of my favorite fashion blogs (I don't look at many because after you've found this one you don't need any other). Someone had pinned her post Building A Remixable Wardrobe on Pinterest. After reading that I found her post called Shopping Mistakes I've Made. As I was reading it I just kept thinking, "This is me, this is totally me!". It was then that I had a revelation. Why do I have to be thin to look good and feel good? Yes, I want to be thinner but why do I have to wait until (if ever) that happens?

My at home uniform

I've been having a lot of fun in my closet mixing and matching and seeing what I can come up with - all with things I already had! I've also stopped impulse shopping/buying. I'm now trying to think about what I want/need before I go shopping. I research what stores have what and I think about exactly what I'm looking for. When I shop I must love everything (well almost everything, some things I will overlook) before I will buy it. I still have a long way to go and still am making mistakes. Like the super cute tan jacket from Target that was too tight in the arms. I really wanted it and the baby was crying so I bought it anyway. I'm taking it back. It would have been a lot easier to just wait and find something that fits better. Oh well, live and learn.

So am I'm writing this blog to show how cool I've become and how fashionable I am? Um, no. FAR from it. This is a reminder to myself to keep trying and if I'm doing good it will be reassurance that I can do it.

But why does dressing all fashionable matter? Isn't that conceited and a waste of time to worry about how you look? Not at all (unless it is taking over your life). I think about it this way. If I don't feel good about myself, I'm in a bad mood and if I'm in a bad mood my kids and husband get the brunt of that. If I feel good, I'm happier and that also trickles down. Not to mention wanting my daughter to grow up seeing a mom who likes to dress nicely and even though she's not perfect she tries to look nice and feel good (my mom has alway been a good model of this). I want her to feel good and like looking nice no matter what size she is. Also, more than likely my son will look for a wife like his mother. I want him to find someone who loves God and also is comfortable with herself since how a woman feels effects the ones around her.

Deep stuff aside, clothes are fun and I want to have lots of fun! If I don't write any more posts, oh well, but I will try (for myself) to keep it up and post outfits that I've worn that I liked, clothes/outfits/pieces that I want, style inspiration, ect. Basically anything I want because more than likely I'm the only one reading this! Ha!